I went through an interesting period this past summer. A time of extreme stress about my life. It is not totally over and I’m left now with probably a period of finding myself again. The good news is that I am a strong person, I’ve been here before, and I’m willing to do the dirty work to get back where I need to be.
However, in a twist of fate (although not exactly what I was praying for – which was to feel zero stress and have my entire life figured out), I found this link. If you don’t know what Myers Briggs is, let me throw some knowledge down. The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a questionnaire that measures psychological preferences in how we perceive the world and make decisions. Sound confusing? Well it really isn’t. It basically breaks down how you process things based on a few personality traits:
- Introversion vs Extroversion
- Intuition vs Sensing
- Thinking vs Feeling
- Judging vs Perceiving
I think that this test can’t encompass all humans feel and do, but I do think it is helpful to have some kind of baseline. I hold on to this when I feel a little adrift. It’s like a tangible thing I can go to and think- other people feel this way too. And mostly it makes me feel like yes, I’m not crazy.
Anyways this article jumps into common stressors based on your personality type, and exactly how others can help you. For instance, I’m an INFP (introverted, intuitive, feeling, perceiving) which makes me “the idealist”. On the list given of things that stress me out I can definitely say they ALL do seriously. Which at once made me feel better. To have this written down to go back to when feeling stressed is an amazing thing for me. It’s a good reminder that it’s not necessarily your fault that things stress you out, it’s just the way you perceive actions!
Some things on my list of things that stress me out that are very relevant today:
-Too many demands on their time
-Lack of authenticity of others
-Fear that they may lose someone
-Rigidity in timelines
“When under stress, an INFP gets lost in internal turmoil. They feel caught between pleasing others and maintaining their own integrity and taking care of their well-being. Their natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrificial tendencies, leaves them confused about who they really are. They feel lost and perplexed during stressful times.”
This is so me, you guys. It’s exactly how I’ve been feeling for a while now and haven’t been able to put into words. #grateful
And then I love how it says how to deal with an INFP’s stress:
Validate their feelings.
Remind them of their strengths.
Don’t give them advice. This will only make them feel worse.
Let them “get away” from it all.
Exercise can help. However, with these types it’s best not to suggest it when they are stressed, but after, as a solution.
This is a great article to go over with significant others, friends, and most definitely people at work (where there is a lot of stress a lot of the time!). My closest friends and I swear this has changed how we interact with others. Plus it’s always good to be a little more perceptive of those around us.
Let me know what personality type you are and what you think of this! I know there are lots of different personality tests out there and I’m so interested in looking into all of them. Give me all the information about my brain!!!
Another interesting website to check out if you want to delve more into MBTI is http://www.16personalities.com.