To overwhelm: to bury or drown beneath a huge mass.
This is the first definition when you search overwhelm in google (also it’s completely terrifying). BUT, I think this sums up everyone’s issues in their 20s in one way or another. Us millennials were not properly prepared for this directionless decade of our lives (unless you follow all the rules in which case maybe your 30s will be this way). Lately I have been internally telling myself to not overwhelm. That doesn’t necessarily mean taking on too many tasks or trying too hard. For me it mostly means that I need to not go too deep in thought. Don’t get me wrong, self-introspection is important and needed. But for the most part, if you’re not having a life crisis, it’s really not. What is the point in overwhelming ourselves with hard thoughts? Doesn’t that just make us more stressed and more down? We’re not solving anything because there is nothing immediate to be solved. This brings into play mindfulness, meditation, and living in the moment. All the things that are so trendy to do for the most medicated generation ever.
All of this is easier said than done, of course. But when I feel bad I tend to realize that I’ve just overwhelmed myself with negative thought after negative thought. To help push through this negativity, I have started to picture a hallway in my mind with doors on either side with big labels (i.e. work, relationships, etc) and I like to imagine myself pushing things through the door and gently shutting them. The hallway is quiet and warm, and at the end of it is a big, fluffy bed with a white, plush comforter incase you’re wondering. That’s my happy place. If this sounds cheesy, it’s because it definitely is. Brains are scary organs, and obviously the most complex one that we have. So we need to treat them as such, and remember that there is work to be done there. Some things I’ve read about the brain that have also kind of terrified me lately:
- Did you know that are brains don’t reach maturity until around age 25?
- The average brain is believed to generate around 50,000 thoughts per day. Disturbingly, it’s estimated that in most people 70% of these thoughts are negative.
- Think you’re in control of your life? Think again. 95% of your decisions take place in your subconscious mind.
So, 1) I am just now basically an adult. 2) We have to re-wire our brains for positivity! 3) My subconscious mind has been fucking with me lately.
I have blogged about You are a Badass by Jen Sincero too many times but she delves into our subconscious mind controlling shit in our brains. In the past 6 months I have seen this to be eerily accurate. She believes that while our brains are developing (UNTIL AGE 25) we are developing subconscious beliefs, and that when we’re older those beliefs can come back and haunt us regardless of what our conscious brain believes or tries to make sense of.
No matter what you say you want, if you’ve got an underlying subconscious belief that it’s going to cause you pain or isn’t available to you, you either A) Won’t let yourself have it, or B) You will let yourself have it, but you’ll be rill fucked up about it. And then you’ll go off and lose it anyway. – Jen Sincero
This is what I’ve been thinking on lately. A couple of random brain thoughts for your day. I think some people can relate. Re-wiring our minds for positivity and compassion is the best way to go long-term, but it is definitely a journey to get there. Good luck, fellow millennials. We’re all in this together.